“I know, to banish anger altogether from one’s breast is a difficult task. It cannot be achieved through pure personal effort. It can be done only by God’s grace.” –Mahatma Gandhi

Truth Message: Managing Anger Wisely—most of us at some time have experienced anger, feeling angry, or experienced someone else angry. With our own anger, we may have complicated matters by trying to suppress anger or ignore it through work, food, or some other method in hopes of covering over the volatile energy and not feeling it.

Perhaps we were taught not to feel anger. Or we may have a tape that played in our head to disallow anger—it’s not the lady-like thing to do. Or the opposite—it’s the manly thing to do.

However, anger is neither male nor female; it is a feeling usually accompanied by a thwarted need.

Anger is at the top of some tenderness and vulnerable energy underneath.  With this in mind, it is healing to understand and respect our anger and not deny it, try to bury it, or project it onto another or an inanimate object, which can make our lives worse. A wise person said it this way—“anger is only one letter short of danger.”

Much has been written on anger by coaches, teachers, psychiatrists, counselors, doctors, ministers, website writers, and so forth. Naturally, the purpose at hand in the truth message is to look at anger through spiritual eyes and with divinely-inspired heart wisdom, understanding and healing.

Unquestionably, anger as a powerful feeling has a good amount to teach us. We have much to uncover about ourselves through self-discovery and in befriending our anger.

By consciously tuning into the flow of our indwelling divinity, we open from within to ideas and helps in facing our anger, being awake to our feelings, and processing any anger energy with spiritual finesse.

These are some beneficial thoughts and helpful points I apply and have given to others:

Point one—admit you are angry. Actually state to self, “I am feeling angry.” I own it. The anger was not given to me. I am feeling it in myself not blaming anyone including myself.

Two—then feel the anger without acting on it. Take a moment and feel it. Anger is charged energy as we know. It can propel us into constructive action. *Importantly, we want to address (heal from, bring peace to) any anger within ourselves before taking action or communication outside of self. Be kind with oneself.

The purpose of recognizing, owning, and feeling our anger is to uplift and put a non-energized stable energy within ourselves in charge—our clear-minded executive power within.

Three—what is the anger about? Get clarity by asking self questions like these or whatever you are guided to ask: where do I feel most vulnerable, tender? What has stirred up the anger in me?  The answer may come immediately; or you may already know.

Four—how can I process the anger with grace. Redirect anger: The answer might be to clean out the garage. Or get into action with something dear to you yet procrastination has gotten in the way. Also, you may receive guidance to sit still, paint a picture of your anger, let it go into the divine light of transmutation, or journal about the charged emotion. *Know you are One with the Divine love of Spirit within.

Five—releasing the anger and feeling peace and joy again? Second, by affirmation declare: I am receptive to the highest and finest way to release the anger.

Six—you may decide at any moment to sit and quiet self to your inner Spirit and reflect, asking for clear guidance on the anger you are feeling.

Seven—processing anger can be fun and a refreshing time to take a break from whatever you were doing. Some favorites are self-reflection which may lead to an incident or person that had brought up anger. Likewise, you may tune into the vulnerable energy and or need, hidden underneath the anger. Also journaling over inner anger and in the activity, rising higher in spiritual affirmation with healing words. In addition, you may enjoy batting a tennis ball around or letting out an imprisoned scream in a safe area when anger energy is felt.

Following this, give thanks for all that you are, for experiencing your entire self, even the challenging energy. Remind yourself to feel joy toward self and whatever you want to be joyful about. *If you are not ready embrace where you are in the moment. Remind yourself however–joy is an ever-present quality within me and ever-available to express and experience.

*Certainly, when anger turns to rage or abusiveness to self or others, without delay seek professional help. When those around us report we have a persistent anger problem, it is time to seek professional help. I add, in many circumstances of recovery the combination of a professional counselor and pastoral counselor make for a well-balanced and solid restoration and renewal.

Prayer—I am receptive to my feeling nature for it contributes to increased well-being and wholeness. Too, I am aware of my feelings, taking the time to know what I am feeling. I am also awake to and honor within self any unsettled charged energy. Wisdom is immediate. I behold my emotional expression and choose to care for the whole self with diligence, divine intelligence and love-kindness. In gratitude for illumination, self-awareness, inner peace, and complete healing, Amen.